Behavior Never Lies - 9/14/2008

A while back, I had the pleasure to play a round of golf with our good friend and one of my personal mentors – the one and only Richard Flint.  During the wonderful day we spent together, Richard told me that he had written a new book entitled, “Behavior Never Lies,” which although I had not read yet, intrigued me no end.

In fact, a few year, Richard, who was our Celebrity Guest Speaker, elaborated on this Behavior Never Lies theme, which I aligned with immediately because it parallels so much of my teachings over the years.

Yes, your behavior outwardly and vividly displays WHO YOU ARE inside your skin.  Your behavior shows others, and if you are observant enough, gives you yourself great feedback as to your own concepts, thoughts and feelings.  Additionally, your behavior brings to life, especially when you are not on guard, your character traits, your strengths, weaknesses, securities, insecurities, likes, dislikes and it even openly shows others the mood you are in.

That’s what he means, by your behavior never lies.  Actually it reveals who you are – good or bad – and is a great mechanism that you can use to become award of some of the weaknesses you have and the personal growth areas that require some attention.

As an example, if you are a person that fears rejection in any way, then your emotional withdrawal or bad feelings when a patient quits – displayed by your behavior – just pointed out the area that needs work.  And, by the way, ignoring the issue doesn’t make it go away. Sooner or later you will come to understand that once you identify a weakness, it is incumbent upon you to do whatever it takes to turn that weakness into strength.

The end result of course is a growing confidence and an improved self-image that dramatically changes your focus, power of attraction and ability to move forward.

Is it the automobile that inadvertently cuts you off while driving that gets you angry and all pushed out of shape or is it that the anger was residing within you to begin with and the auto incident just brought it to the surface – and your behavior proved it.

So, the reason for your anger was not caused by the other guy, it was caused by harboring an anger characteristic that needs attention.  What you impress on the inside, you express on the outside.

And, the more work you need to do in a particular area of your personality the more lessons your behavior prove to you that you need to change.

Remember, this works both ways.  Your behavior will also show you and others to the good characteristics that you possess.  For instance, it is easy to see someone who loves animals – just watch their face when they see a puppy.  People who see children squeal with delight when they see a new born and everyone of your family, friends and employees know from your behavior if you are generous or cheap, warm and kind or hard and bully-like.

I am asking you to use your behavior as a barometer of who you are – and of course, who you are determines how well what you do works.

Use the Behavior Never Lies mechanism to help you make serious and important decisions about the areas that need attention and then decide to change, set some goals, take some actions and enjoy a newer and better you.

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